The Problem Of Ideal Love
The most intensive love two people can have is love between those whose souls are sisterly. The most intensive exchange of love energy occurs when sisterly souls are making love.
This exchange of energies is so intensive that the lovers exchange a piece of their soul and can become energetically similar. But if they became so similar that even the layout of elements of soft-matter in their souls would be the same, they could lose their sexual difference and cease to be each other's ideal counterpart. For this reason their love can only last for certain period and only to certain extent. Otherwise it could be harmful to them by the erasure of the necessary difference between them.
As sisterly souls exchange a big amount of energy through their sexual life, they are gradually becoming similar to each other and the source of their love exhausts. Then they must separate and experience another kind of energy than the energy of mutual love so that this source of energy in their souls could, after an interval, regenerate and their souls could start longing for mutual love energy exchange again.
The more intensive love between people is, the shorter it lasts. You must have noticed that the marriage lasts longest in which partner's love is harmonic.
Old Chinese medicine said that the excessive love leads to disorders in organism. Just imagine that two people would long for each other so much that they would not be able to sleep, they would become nervous and in the end they would break down. Their stimulation and stress hormones would be increased all the time and later they would lead the organism to the collapse.
Partners can only live together when they do not love each other with the highest intensity. Only then they can sleep peacefully, are not nervous and can keep good health. Too big love can burn a man, and only less intensive love keeps him in harmony. This is one of the main dangers of human love.
In this world it is only possible to love into certain extent. Too big love exhausts a man and destroys him. It is sad, but true. We all dream about ideal and maximum love, but how would we end up, if we had to go through it? Would it not be more harmful than useful?************Love between people can be compared to the attraction among planets and their Sun. Maximal love = planet approaching the Sun so much to get burned in it; calmly harmonic love = regular orbit of a planet around the Sun – never too close never too distant; small love = planet too distant off the Sun, what will cause the breaking of it's orbit and flying to the space.
So instead of maximal love for one soul that will probably cause to you more harm than help it is better to choose a medium way: a reasonable, halfly intensive love for more souls at once; never want everything from anybody, never give anybody everything; on the other hand, give everybody something and accept something from him too. To like everybody reasonably and never expect more than what is healthy.
Lesson: Do not wait for any maximal and ideal love, neither expect any best Karmic bound to any soul because you won't find it in this world. You can have no 100% love entirely but you can have several smaller, halfly intensive loves that all create the real true love.
How can ideal love change into none love
Useless endeavor to find the ideal friend may rob a man of all the potential suitable friends that he could have instead of the dreamed and unreachable friend to whom he fixed fully – mostly mystic sister or cousin whom he is always searching for and he or she is always escaping from him.
If somebody cannot live with his dreamed ideal partner in his present life, let him take his reason into his hands and realize until there is enough time and before his life run away from him during his vain endeavor, that better is to have smaller thing in his hands instead of the biggest one that is far away.
If you cannot have your ideal please be reasonable and humble yourselves and try to see your ideal in him that you can gain. I say: „Better is at least a little-nice woman in your bed than ZiYi Zhang only on the screen of your monitor.“ So better is a little-good friend beside you than the best one in your imaginations only (and together with him virginity or sexual abstinence that will cause more harm than use).
Interesting fact:
It is a trick used by Fate's powers to impress people with unrealizable wishes, also with the above-mentioned emotional fixation and thinking on whom you cannot have. So if you dream about whom you cannot have please give it up. Imagine that the respective person does not exist, simple forget about her. And then let you look around you and you will see a lot of beautiful people (men a lot of pretty women and women a lot of attractive men) and force yourselves to have some talk to them and flirt with them a little. When you will do that for some time, suddenly you will discover that one of them attracts you and maybe you him and maybe you will go out and will be well off together. Then you will realize that you will never be that lucky if you only dreamed in vain about the ideal partner whom you could not have. Moreover, was he or she really ideal for you when he or she was unattainable and you only suffered because of it? After all, was not he or she the worst of all your friends?