Love And Fight

 

Love and fight are seemingly two different things from which one builds and one  destroys. In spite of this they have much in common.

 

At first we must realize the substance of human love - why a man and a woman attract each other and in what they differ mutually.

As an example let us take two ideal partners - a man and a woman. Their souls have common origin as they both arose by the division of one non-sexual soul into two souls, a male one and a female one. Therefore these two souls are called “sisterly souls”.

A man has in dominance the male element and in a woman there is a predominance of a female element. A man has what a woman misses and a woman has what a man misses. Both long subconsciously to connect mutually and merge together, which is demonstrated by sexual desire. Their sexual intercourse is in fact their trial to return into the original state, when they both were connected into one soul, non-sexual and perfect. However, their physical bodies make this spiritual need of theirs impossible to be realized fully, nevertheless at the end of space existence their souls can merge in the spiritual world into the one non-sexual soul again. This connection is called “mystical wedding”.

In order a man and a woman could love and attract each other, a certain difference must be set between them. And this desirable difference between them is kept above all by the different way of their souls life-experiencing. This difference also helps to keep their love.

A man is seemingly rough and longs for a woman’s tenderness, whereas a woman is seemingly tender and longs for a man’s roughness. Man’s masculinity impresses to a woman and her womanliness impresses to a man. A man is mostly able to live through love more intensely than a woman because he is of Yang nature which is activity, heat and emotions. A woman is of Yin nature, which expresses cold and passivity. That is why a man tries to gain woman’s love more actively and a woman accepts it less actively.

And now let us look how the fight is connected with keeping of their sexual charge and erotic attraction between them, that is with keeping of their mutual love.

Firstly, let us start in the old times. Most of old nations had an idea that a man should be good at fight and a woman should give birth to nice and healthy children for him. In olden days, old ballads have belauded brave warriors and their beautiful women. This was an *ideal image of the old times - love and fight.

A man develops his masculinity through fight i.e. through active and violent self-assertion. He also introduces for show his ability to assert himself among other men and to show that he keeps a valid position among them, which he gained or fought out. His position was also consolidated by the leading position in a family which he was obligated to protect. His wife then saw in him her supporter and a good fighter and she felt herself to be under his protection.

Women were not allowed to perform male work, only female work. Similarly men had to perform only male work, and not female. In modern times some women behave like men and they perform the same professions, which breaks the difference between a man and a woman, and their living through love.

When in old times husband and wife lived in a country, which was shaken by wars quite often, they were not sure when they see each other for the last time. They loved each other the more intensely the closest they were to the war, which threatened them. When the war came into pass, a man went into the fight and his wife waited for him with fear if he comes back in health. And when he came back in order and even decorated in fights, the more she loved him.

In women it is coded that a man must be a valorous male. When he is too tender and too kind, most women dislike it more than if he was a bit rude to them. Similarly most of men dislike when their wives are too rough and male.

A man as well as a woman can deal with martial arts, however, it should be preserved the rule, that a man should always be physically stronger than a woman, so she could see in him her protector and authority, and in order to he could see in her a weaker, frailer and tender creature, whom he must protect and care about. Then their masculinity and femaleness will not be damaged and the relation between them will remain healthy.

 

(You are a nice match, just like Dragon and Fenix. This sentence, if I remember it well, was heard in a famous film about Asian martial arts called “Betrayal And Revenge”. It was said by an old Master, when he saw a young action hero trained with a girl that he fell in love with.

It is true that conjunction of martial art training and Tai-chi can be a kind of flirt between lovers and even preparation for a deeper touch and connection of their souls.

If a man trains the Yang style of Tai-chi and his woman trains the Yin style, they can be better prepared for the moments of their love. So such a special training of suitable forms - practiced together - can be a good tuning before the sexual intercourse.

It is another example of positive side of martial arts. They can be used for activating love in many forms, for example love between friends, when they practice combative forms together and experience their particular movements at the very same time. It also strengthens their mutual energy, but only if they like each other and open their hearts.)

 

Only when a man keeps his masculinity and power, and a woman keeps her femaleness and tenderness, the relationship between them is intensive and burns with true love. And that is why fight i.e. men’s ability to assert themselves violently provided to them admiration of women, and to women strong and admirable protectors by whose side they want to stay for their whole life.

 

*(However, this "ideal image" of olden times has a big negative aspect: to be a good fighter, a man must beat his enemies = he causes pain to and defeats others, what harms them. And if women only were in love with brave warriors = they would love those who are hurting others and who keep aggression in the genes of mankind. Therefore in the old – the first and middle - phasis of our civilisation development is valid what I have written in this chapter under “Love And Fight” the term, whereas in the highest phasis of the development a general piece and equivalence is valid – the highest goal of martial arts: no enemies, that is no defeated and humiliated people.)